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You should testify because you have evidence useful to the defense.
I don't see much drama coming from that.
It would be a rare case where an abused woman would not ever have had any opportunity to leave. Most abused women who end up getting killed are killed because they are leaving or have recently left. I'm not sure how much the physical ability to leave factors into her case. Possibly not at all.For example, you mention that you tried to talk her into leaving her husband and that you ran into her at different places while she was alone. That info may be used to show that your friend had the opportunity to escape her abusive husband.
I couldn't. I was 18 and living with my parents at the time. She could have moved back in with her own parents, though. I did try to convince her to go to a shelter. The saddest thing about her letter to me was when she said she should have listened to me then.Did you offer her a place to live?
Yes. I saw her bruises as well as the handgun he threatened her with. I never had any reason to believe the relationship had improved.When you saw her, was she ever bruised or show signs of abuse?
Well, it's true I wouldn't have a choice if subpoenaed. My boss's argument was that I should pretend to know nothing to prevent a subpoena.I doubt very seriously you will have a choice but to testify. If I were the defense attorney, I would subpoena you because you are a witness to the abuse she endured. Any good defense attorney would.
Something doesn't seem right about his reaction to your situation, as if he were offering you horrible advice in order to benefit himself in some way....My boss's argument was that I should pretend to know nothing to prevent a subpoena...
Something doesn't seem right about his reaction to your situation, as if he were offering you horrible advice in order to benefit himself in some way.
Not sure if that makes any sense, but can you be sure if he is acting solely in your best interest as this "drama" unfolds?
I thought of that also, but her testimony would last only one or two days at most, hardly enough to steer someone in the wrong direction, if that's indeed what he is doing.Hmm...if your in court your not at work....
You're right. I really didn't think he would react that way. My relationship with my boss is fairly informal in that we talk about whatever is on our minds; he'd come into my office to ask about a recipe when it came up. So ... it's not like I went to him seeking permission about this.In hindsight, Devil's best approach should have been not to discuss this case with her boss in the first place. It's none of his business. Then when she received a notice to appear, she could've shown him the document; and if he asked what it was all about, she could've told him, truthfully, that she wasn't at liberty to discuss the case.
As an atheist, I don't know God can bring comfort so I've taken to providing some for her myself.Offering strength and encouragement is never wrong.
Sorry to hear of your friends outcome. Surely, there are things that happen to us in life we would rather never go through. Unfortunately, they come and when they do, God grant us the grace to endure and to be brave.
As a Christian, I know God can bring comfort, even in this most difficult time. I pray she finds that comfort.
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Thank you, my friend.Know that you and she both have someone out here in the universe extending only hopeful, positive, well-wishing thoughts for her soundness and strength. And for her loved ones, too.
You know what's funny? He occasionally remarks that I have no sympathy for people, which I of course object to (because it's untrue). Then he'll say "It was a compliment. I'm the same way." If that's not projection, I'm not sure what is.For me, your boss' belief that 'she killed him so she is a monster who deserves to rot in jail', is a sign of inhumanity. Empathy, which he has none of, is the only way to make a justice system work IMO.
Those who don't actually know her (on our local paper's web site) carry on about what a monster she is. The reaction of those of us who do know her has been along the lines of "Wow. I always thought he'd be the one to kill her."People are going to look at this case all sorts of ways. I reserve my own opinion, since I know very little other than what has been posted here.
I'm sure she isn't dancing around for killing him. Killing anyone has to come with a whole mess of baggage when all is said and done.
Those who don't actually no her (on our local paper's web site) carry on about what a monster she is. The reaction of those of us who do know her has been along the lines of "Wow. I always thought he'd be the one to kill her."