Cliff Face:
*major hugs*
Okay, I don't want to get gross here or anything, but about the taste/smell thing...well, I'm not sure how much detail I want to get in on a public board, but the smell issue is one of the first things that hormone therapy corrects, after about a month. The taste issue is generally corrected by a combination of that and becoming sterile (or nearly sterile--NEVER trust this as a form of birth control), and that only takes a little longer. And that's pre-surgery. Post-surgery, things will generally be better, too.
Also, one thing that might help your self-confidence would be to read a bit about transgender neurology studies, about how little difference there really is between transitioned trans women and cis women in terms of appearance and function, and some general pro-trans literature. (I'll post a link below.)
And, it might seem like a matter of semantics, and you have the right to identify however you feel comfortable, but it might help to not think of yourself as a man who wants to become a woman, because if you're trans, you're not. You're not even a "woman trapped in a man's body." You're a woman with a birth defect. (By the way, a surprising number of cisgender women don't have XX chromosomes. Lots of cis women have as much torso hair as most men. Bone structure that isn't the female average is fairly common. Really, a lot of things we're self-conscious about, that make us feel fake, is stuff that bothers other women as well.)
And that's not some silly delusion, not some politically-correct pretense. You are biologically female when it comes to your brain. Literally, not metaphorically. (And yes, there is a real biological difference between men and women, but it doesn't do anywhere near as much as many people assume. Mostly it just affects how you view yourself subconsciously, how your internal body map is laid out, and judging by my experiences and what I've heard from others, what puberty your subconscious expects.)
We spend our lives getting bombarded with ignorant media depictions of "gay men who want to get surgery to look more like women to trick straight men." Even some of our allies often try to portray it as "feminine men who like girly things, so they would feel more comfortable looking like women so they fit gender roles better." But trans women are really just women, and are just as varied, and often go on to have relatively "normal" lives--whatever "normal" means.
Anyway, here's a link that kinda works as a pep talk when I'm feeling down.
http://binarysubverter.wordpress.com/2010/11/24/trans-101/
*major hugs*
Okay, I don't want to get gross here or anything, but about the taste/smell thing...well, I'm not sure how much detail I want to get in on a public board, but the smell issue is one of the first things that hormone therapy corrects, after about a month. The taste issue is generally corrected by a combination of that and becoming sterile (or nearly sterile--NEVER trust this as a form of birth control), and that only takes a little longer. And that's pre-surgery. Post-surgery, things will generally be better, too.
Also, one thing that might help your self-confidence would be to read a bit about transgender neurology studies, about how little difference there really is between transitioned trans women and cis women in terms of appearance and function, and some general pro-trans literature. (I'll post a link below.)
And, it might seem like a matter of semantics, and you have the right to identify however you feel comfortable, but it might help to not think of yourself as a man who wants to become a woman, because if you're trans, you're not. You're not even a "woman trapped in a man's body." You're a woman with a birth defect. (By the way, a surprising number of cisgender women don't have XX chromosomes. Lots of cis women have as much torso hair as most men. Bone structure that isn't the female average is fairly common. Really, a lot of things we're self-conscious about, that make us feel fake, is stuff that bothers other women as well.)
And that's not some silly delusion, not some politically-correct pretense. You are biologically female when it comes to your brain. Literally, not metaphorically. (And yes, there is a real biological difference between men and women, but it doesn't do anywhere near as much as many people assume. Mostly it just affects how you view yourself subconsciously, how your internal body map is laid out, and judging by my experiences and what I've heard from others, what puberty your subconscious expects.)
We spend our lives getting bombarded with ignorant media depictions of "gay men who want to get surgery to look more like women to trick straight men." Even some of our allies often try to portray it as "feminine men who like girly things, so they would feel more comfortable looking like women so they fit gender roles better." But trans women are really just women, and are just as varied, and often go on to have relatively "normal" lives--whatever "normal" means.
Anyway, here's a link that kinda works as a pep talk when I'm feeling down.
http://binarysubverter.wordpress.com/2010/11/24/trans-101/