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I had fun reading the responses in this thread. Good discussion.
My two cents... the hating each other at the beginning always gets an eye-roll from me because it's quite obvious at that point that those two are going to end up together. That kills the tension right away, no matter what kind of struggles or emotional rollercoasters they go through in the middle.
In my real life experience, my husband and I knew from the moment we met that we'd end up getting married one day... we just didn't know when or how. And since then, we've had years of typical life struggles that are made all-the-more difficult because we believe we ARE with the right person. It's easy, if you don't truly love someone or are on the fence about your emotions, to face a hurdle and just say "forget it" and move on. But not so when that person feels like your other half, and without them, you'd be lost.
For me, that's where the real conflict is created. When you DO know your feelings for that person, you KNOW you love them, and something threatens the relationship, and thus, your meaningful existence.
And that's why I write women's fiction instead of cookie-cutter romance. It has more emotion behind it, in my opinion. More is at stake than "love at first sight" or "he loves me, he loves me not" or "wow, I really hate that guy... or do I."
Okay, maybe that was a nickel's worth.
My two cents... the hating each other at the beginning always gets an eye-roll from me because it's quite obvious at that point that those two are going to end up together. That kills the tension right away, no matter what kind of struggles or emotional rollercoasters they go through in the middle.
In my real life experience, my husband and I knew from the moment we met that we'd end up getting married one day... we just didn't know when or how. And since then, we've had years of typical life struggles that are made all-the-more difficult because we believe we ARE with the right person. It's easy, if you don't truly love someone or are on the fence about your emotions, to face a hurdle and just say "forget it" and move on. But not so when that person feels like your other half, and without them, you'd be lost.
For me, that's where the real conflict is created. When you DO know your feelings for that person, you KNOW you love them, and something threatens the relationship, and thus, your meaningful existence.
And that's why I write women's fiction instead of cookie-cutter romance. It has more emotion behind it, in my opinion. More is at stake than "love at first sight" or "he loves me, he loves me not" or "wow, I really hate that guy... or do I."
Okay, maybe that was a nickel's worth.