I recall growing up back in the early 1970's that the words "colored" and "negro" were both being shunned in favor of "black" (because "black is beautiful," or at least it was back then). And the people who were shunning those other words were the ones who mattered the most in this whole situation: the people who were being called by those words, and those are the people whom I shall here refer to as "Americans of African descent." And I saw this same shift away from "negro" and away from "colored" being echoed in the media -- both in print and broadcast news reports, and also in enertainment such as magazines, novels, and TV and movies. And who could forget many a TV show where the cop gets on the radio to give a detailed description of a suspect for his urgent APB concerning a "Tall Black Male" (as opposed to a "Tall Colored Male"). Many years later, I learned that "black" was no longer acceptable (although certainly still beautiful), and that "African American" is now preferred (but that too may have changed as of late). And many police officers today are instructed to say "Tall African American Male."
Meanwhile, I had always been told that "queer" was an insult, and that the more polite term was always "gay." So I have always endeavored to say "gay," and I have always witnessed the same careful usage of what I presumed was the preferred term "gay" in the news and on TV, and even in national politics, and also (most importantly) in the phrase "Lesbian, Gay, Bi-sexual, Transgender" or LGBT for short. But now I am learning for the first time that "queer" is preferred over "gay."
Please help me out here. I am trying to so hard to keep up. I really really wanna try and keep it straight (no pun intended).
Would I look old-fashioned if I slipped up and used the word "gay"? Would I look prejudiced? Do I teach my students to use the word "queer" and to NEVER use the word "gay"? Are there currently media outlets and pundits using "queer" rather than "gay"? --even Rachel Maddow??
I'm caught in time warp here. Need some help.
Meanwhile, I had always been told that "queer" was an insult, and that the more polite term was always "gay." So I have always endeavored to say "gay," and I have always witnessed the same careful usage of what I presumed was the preferred term "gay" in the news and on TV, and even in national politics, and also (most importantly) in the phrase "Lesbian, Gay, Bi-sexual, Transgender" or LGBT for short. But now I am learning for the first time that "queer" is preferred over "gay."
Please help me out here. I am trying to so hard to keep up. I really really wanna try and keep it straight (no pun intended).
Would I look old-fashioned if I slipped up and used the word "gay"? Would I look prejudiced? Do I teach my students to use the word "queer" and to NEVER use the word "gay"? Are there currently media outlets and pundits using "queer" rather than "gay"? --even Rachel Maddow??
I'm caught in time warp here. Need some help.
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