I just want to say that I'm not actually going to base my decision to have children on what a bunch of people on a public forum have to say. But I do want to get some input.
I'm 26. I've never WANTED children in the way that many girls do - dressing up baby dolls, playing house, etc. I don't need to hold every baby I see. Not having kids doesn't bother me. I'm really quite satisfied with my life the way it is. I don't have "the urge."
But I do plan to have kids, most likely before I'm thirty. And lately, there are some things that are making me want to have children - possibly sooner rather than later.
1) I want my parents to be able to enjoy their grandkids while they are still able enough to do so. My parents are hearty people, so they'll likely be around for a while yet, but my dad has had heart problems and he's getting to the point where he's not as active as he once was.
2) It would be an extra blessing to be able to have children before my grandmother passes away. She's in her eighties and getting very frail. But I know it would thrill her to no end to see my baby.
3) I'm at a point in my life where I'm not working full time and I'm working from home. I have time for kids.
4) I'm not thrilled about the infancy stage, but I really look forward to reading my child stories or passing down our family traditions.
I think I've started thinking about it more now that the holidays are coming up. Since I've been an adult, Christmas has lost a lot of its wonder, and it's because there are no children in my extended family. There's nobody to tell the stories to or put out presents for. It feels like something is missing.
So I guess my question is, do you feel like these are sufficient reasons to have children? Or should I wait until I really feel like I NEED to have a baby? I've known so many women who just NEEDED to have a baby, that not feeling like that makes me doubt myself.
Also, the level of responsibility involved in raising a child scares the crap out of me.
I'm 26. I've never WANTED children in the way that many girls do - dressing up baby dolls, playing house, etc. I don't need to hold every baby I see. Not having kids doesn't bother me. I'm really quite satisfied with my life the way it is. I don't have "the urge."
But I do plan to have kids, most likely before I'm thirty. And lately, there are some things that are making me want to have children - possibly sooner rather than later.
1) I want my parents to be able to enjoy their grandkids while they are still able enough to do so. My parents are hearty people, so they'll likely be around for a while yet, but my dad has had heart problems and he's getting to the point where he's not as active as he once was.
2) It would be an extra blessing to be able to have children before my grandmother passes away. She's in her eighties and getting very frail. But I know it would thrill her to no end to see my baby.
3) I'm at a point in my life where I'm not working full time and I'm working from home. I have time for kids.
4) I'm not thrilled about the infancy stage, but I really look forward to reading my child stories or passing down our family traditions.
I think I've started thinking about it more now that the holidays are coming up. Since I've been an adult, Christmas has lost a lot of its wonder, and it's because there are no children in my extended family. There's nobody to tell the stories to or put out presents for. It feels like something is missing.
So I guess my question is, do you feel like these are sufficient reasons to have children? Or should I wait until I really feel like I NEED to have a baby? I've known so many women who just NEEDED to have a baby, that not feeling like that makes me doubt myself.
Also, the level of responsibility involved in raising a child scares the crap out of me.