I'm not a 'stand over your shoulder' type mom, but I do grab his cell phone or computer from time to time and ask him to show me a few recent messages, just to be on the safe side... and they sound legit. (Besides, it's this new celeb friend who has led him to these places)
You say that last sentence as if somehow that makes it safe?
Celebrities are no safer than anyone else on the internet. Probably less so.
I've always been very careful with my son and his Internet usage; I gave him the whole 'that pretty girl you met on MySpace could be a fat 40 year old perverted man' talk a long time ago.
Now, he's involved in something different.
Over the summer, he met and developed a friendship with a very popular teen celebrity who has introduced him to a whole new world, including a special chat room that has just about every teen celebrity you can imagine hanging around.
Needless to say, he's fascinated and spends enormous amounts of time in this chat room and IM'ing and texting these new friends.
I'm not a 'stand over your shoulder' type mom, but I do grab his cell phone or computer from time to time and ask him to show me a few recent messages, just to be on the safe side... and they sound legit. (Besides, it's this new celeb friend who has led him to these places)
I just find it hard to believe that these household name teen celebs would be so open with their IM'ing, texting and computer chat.
Today, I had the 'I'm just a little concerned that these people may not be the celebrities they claim to be and they could be the fat 40 year old perverted men i had told you about' talk.
It's still pretty innocent as far as teens go, but the way its going, it will lead to meetings and I did let him know that I want to be the one to take him to initial meetings with his new friends, that I would look to make sure he is safe, but wouldn't interfere.
He agreed to this.
What do you think? Do I have cause for concern?
Needless to say, he's fascinated and spends enormous amounts of time in this chat room and IM'ing and texting these new friends.
I guess I should say a normal amount of time for many teens. I told my son he should go into orthopedics as all of his generation are (is?) going to need new thumbs by the time they are in their 20's from all of the text messaging they do.
Maybe I'm too protective of my children, but there's no way, no how and not ever, EVER, would I allow my kids to hook up with someone they've met online. EVER.
(Is that enough use of EVER to make my point?)
It this a certain "brand" of chat? Do you or your son know what an IP address is, and can either of you find the IP address of someone who's posting on a chat group/channel?I know I am being a bit secretive and I've advised my son to respect the privacy of his friend also.
If it is her corresponding with him (and not her assistant), I know she doesn't want it blasted across the internet.
I think she is real (or its at least her assistant).
As far as the others he met in the chat room, I'm a little more concerned- although I have gotten some confirmation that the chat site is on the up and up.
As parents, we've just got to keep our eyes open. Kids are so easily influenced and when you add a celebrity factor (real or not), they can be even more influenced.