I am, unfortunately, much more likely to underdo things most of the time. Blunt, there may be tens of thousands here, but none I've ever met comes close to this one (besides, if they're over the age of 21, hell, make that 18, they're married or have a boyfriend already - it appears women stay single here about as long as it takes for someone to look at them with interest).
Don't worry. I'm not despairing. Something tells me she'll come around. I just can't keep playing things as cooly as I have been and that's really difficult for me. I can write about powerful emotions and scenes between characters, but when it comes to real life I sometimes feel distanced from from emotions.
I am reminded of the Romulan Admiral who, after asking Capt. Picard why Picard did not have a wife and family was told that Picard had been too busy with his career remarked something to the effect "You have been too busy with the things that do not matter".
I've spent decades behind these walls I built to keep from getting hurt, and every time I got hurt again I strengthened those walls again. The wife of a friend of mine once remarked I was one of the emotionally coldest man she'd ever met.
It's just going to take me a little time to tear down a section of those walls.
Which brings us around to the April prompt for Soapie's Elements thread. Thus far, we've had one response put up in SYW. Moral ambiguity and moral distance and emotional coldness are all parts of the same coin - a character who can distance or even completely separate themselves from the emotional effects of what they're doing. There's a certain amount of sociopathy in that kind of distancing. That could be an interesting tack at moral ambiguity - a character who is, essentially, schizophrenic, one person on the outside who appears to be warm and friendly and another psychologically who is incapable of feeling or expressing himself or herself (a female Dexter?) the way other humans do.