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Beth Fehlbaum
02-23-2008, 05:42 AM
I won't be back.
SpookyWriter
02-23-2008, 06:04 AM
I'm a bit confused. Are you promoting your book or open to discussing bullies? Please help me to understand the differences.
SpookyWriter
02-23-2008, 06:18 AM
Does that help any?Discuss.

David Shepherd, Travis Price and their teenage friends organized a high-school protest to wear pink in sympathy with a Grade 9 boy who was being bullied…[They] took a stand against bullying when they protested against the harassment of a new Grade 9 student by distributing pink T-shirts to all the boys in their school.
Silver King
02-23-2008, 06:27 AM
...I am the author of Courage in Patience, a story of hope for those who have endured abuse...

Beth Fehlbaum, author
Courage in Patience
A story of hope for those who have endured abuse
http://courageinpatience.blogspot.com
http://www.kunati.com
Courage in Patience will be released in September!
Until your post got to the section in bold, it didn't sound like you were touting your wares. If that's what you have in mind, we have a Self-Promotion board located here (http://absolutewrite.com/forums/forumdisplay.php?f=34), which you may find useful.
Plot Device
02-23-2008, 06:48 AM
Beth,

Here's my paraphrase of what the moderator named Silver King said to you:


I, Silver King, read your post and then I got to THIS part of it (which I, Silver King, am choosing to make BOLD simply for emphasis):

...I am the author of Courage in Patience, a story of hope for those who have endured abuse...

And then I, Silver King, snipped that part off the bulk of your post and then I, Silver King, concluded my quotation of your OP with just this part here:


Beth Fehlbaum, author
Courage in Patience
A story of hope for those who have endured abuse
http://courageinpatience.blogspot.com
http://www.kunati.com
Courage in Patience will be released in September!

And since those two chunks of you post, and everything in between, make up easilly 70% or more of the entire post, it seems less like you are celebrating the pink tee-shirt thing and more like you are spamming your book.



That's my paraphrase of what he was trying to say.

My apologies to Silver King if my paraphrase is not an accurate representation of his intention.
Silver King
02-23-2008, 06:54 AM
Beth, no one is "jumping" on you. It just seems strange that you'd weave a news incident with a reference to your book, is all.

Most of the helpful advice you'll find here is never made to include a member's book by way of promoting their work. It must've been an oversight on your part. It just seems, well, unseemly, you know?
Silver King
02-23-2008, 06:55 AM
My apologies to Silver King if my paraphrase is not an accurate representation of his intention.
No apologies necessary. Your take is dead on. :)
sassandgroove
02-23-2008, 06:58 AM
yeah, Silver king was just saying since you have your book in the post and not just in the sig line, there is a place for promoting your book and this ain't it.

Now, as for bullying, yeah, girls are vicious.
when I was in 5th and 6th grade, i had a hard time with the girls. I was the new kid in a town of 400 people. The girls had all known each other since they had been embryos and they were vicious to each other. I just shut down and pulled away from them and lived in my fantasy world, reading books at school to avoid them and look busy. Later I realized it was really just one or two girls who were mean. the other ones were just afraid to piss off the ring leaders, so no one ever tried to cross them to be my friend. In a way, the girls who wouldn't chance it hurt worse than the mean girls. A few years ago I got in touch with the girl who was in my class and she was happy to hear from me. It felt good that she was glad. In retrospect, she was just trying to fit in. She was never mean to me. She and I just didn't have anything in common. When you are a kid everything is magnified and dramatic and seemingly permanent.
blacbird
02-23-2008, 07:01 AM
Carrying a pink baseball bat would work better, IMO.

caw
SpookyWriter
02-23-2008, 07:02 AM
Beth, no one is "jumping" on you. It just seems strange that you'd weave a news incident with a reference to your book, is all.

Most of the helpful advice you'll find here is never made to include a member's book by way of promoting their work. It must've been an oversight on your part. It just seems, well, unseemly, you know?That was my take for the git-go. I don't mind discussing current events or political ideology without the impromptu promotion of publication in the same topic.
Monkey
02-23-2008, 09:52 AM
Considering that something like half your posts mention your book, and quite a few of them seem like thinly veiled advertisements, Spooky and Silver handled this very tactfully.

We just don't do that around here.

I hope that you stick around. We all started out as newbs, and newbs are the life-blood that keep this (or any) forum vital. You have good things to say, and your contributions are valuable; play nice and I'm sure you'll find this place both useful and enjoyable.
kristie911
02-23-2008, 10:05 AM
When I was in school any boy wearing a pink shirt was just asking to have his ass kicked.
Williebee
02-23-2008, 10:13 AM
Kristie -- yup.

From the title I expected to hear that some school or a judge had made some bullies wear pink shirts.
BenPanced
02-23-2008, 10:15 AM
When I was in school any boy wearing a pink shirt was just asking to have his ass kicked.
No matter how many other kids wear a pink shirt in solidarity.
maxmordon
02-23-2008, 10:29 AM
When I was in school any boy wearing a pink shirt was just asking to have his ass kicked.

That's why we all shall thank school uniforms and the lacking of individuality that in this case seems good
Gravity
02-23-2008, 08:48 PM
When I was in school any boy wearing a pink shirt was just asking to have his ass kicked.

:D Yep. Kid might just have well worn a sign: "Not the face! Anywhere but the face!"
sassandgroove
02-23-2008, 10:27 PM
Well, I tried to respond to the subject matter at hand, but she left. Why do I try?
MattW
02-24-2008, 01:05 AM
Didn't the same person weave her own book plug into a P&CE post about Americans and language a short while back?

I thought it smelled faintly of spam, but could have been on the breeze...
kristie911
02-24-2008, 01:30 AM
Didn't the same person weave her own book plug into a P&CE post about Americans and language a short while back?


Yep, that would be the same person.
Don Allen
02-24-2008, 02:55 AM
This is one of those threads that I have to drink vast quantities of alcohol to understand, I'l be back, maybe..
Soccer Mom
02-24-2008, 03:17 AM
Didn't the same person weave her own book plug into a P&CE post about Americans and language a short while back?

I thought it smelled faintly of spam, but could have been on the breeze...

And also a post about harmful mothers and one about book censorship. Yup.
benbradley
02-24-2008, 05:59 AM
Gee, to think this author is leaving us just because we don't like the pinkish hue of her posts. It's a real shame, because we're only down to 20,500 members...
PattiTheWicked
02-24-2008, 06:01 AM
My daughter's friend -- male -- has a shirt that says "girls dig guys who wear pink."

And he's right.
sassandgroove
02-25-2008, 12:43 AM
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