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mkcbunny
11-25-2007, 04:16 AM
I can't believe it's been nearly two years since I posted a question here about getting hold of a dead body. Ah, time flies.

Same book, question about a completely different body:

When a person is cremated, are they cremated wearing clothes, or is the body sent through naked?

I've been looking up information on cremation and associated services, but the finer points about what happens to the body, of course, aren't often covered in mortuary marketing FAQs. There's ample discussion of selecting a casket for pre-cremation viewing, and obviously clothes would be required in that scenario. But I'm wondering, if there's no wake, just a cremation and memorial service later, would the family still pick out clothes for the deceased? It seems to me that they would, but I've never been in that position and just don't know what's normal.

Unfortunately, the one relative I have who could answer this for me is probably too close to the experience to discuss the matter. Any experiences in this area would be helpful.

I'd like my main character to pick out clothes for her deceased grandfather, but he's being cremated without a wake, so I don't want it to seem unrealistic.

Just Me
11-25-2007, 04:20 AM
It depends. The people at the funeral home will ask for the family's preference.

CACTUSWENDY
11-25-2007, 05:29 AM
Interesting question would be.....if I am fried with clothes on....do they filter out the buttons and zippers before they put me in the jar? Hey, inquirin minds want to know.

KTC
11-25-2007, 05:35 AM
In 99% of cases, the clothes will be on.

mkcbunny
11-25-2007, 05:59 AM
In 99% of cases, the clothes will be on.

Kevin, is there a thread you aren't in? LOL.

Thanks.

KTC
11-25-2007, 06:00 AM
Kevin, is there a thread you aren't in? LOL.

Thanks.

What can I say...I'm a knitter. I trust you got my rep comment.

mkcbunny
11-25-2007, 06:00 AM
It depends. The people at the funeral home will ask for the family's preference.

Thanks. That's what I imagined.

mkcbunny
11-25-2007, 06:03 AM
What can I say...I'm a knitter. I trust you got my rep comment.

Well I know where to go then for more answers if I have questions. This was the big one because I've been involved in making preparations for wakes, funerals, and burials. But all of those involved open caskets and clear cases where the deceased had to wear clothes. There've only been two cremations in my family, and I didn't handle either one. I can't ask the person who did.

Thanks!

KTC
11-25-2007, 06:04 AM
Well...if you have any other questions...please feel free to contact me PM...I can answer most of them through her, I am sure.

Medievalist
11-25-2007, 06:08 AM
In my father's case, my mother was asked about her preferences.

His pacemaker was removed.

mkcbunny
11-25-2007, 06:14 AM
Interesting question would be.....if I am fried with clothes on....do they filter out the buttons and zippers before they put me in the jar? Hey, inquirin minds want to know.

Here's an excerpt from CA Health and Safety Code, which came up in my old post about the handling of bodies post-mortem:

7010.3. "Processing" means the removal of foreign objects, pursuant
to Section 7051, and the reduction of the particle size of cremated
remains by mechanical means including, but not limited to, grinding,
crushing, and pulverizing to a consistency appropriate for
disposition.

Whether "processing" is a preferred practice, required, or optional may depend on where you live.

More CA H&SC Here, but not a specific answer. (http://caselaw.lp.findlaw.com/cacodes/hsc/7000-7025.html)

mkcbunny
11-25-2007, 06:17 AM
Well...if you have any other questions...please feel free to contact me PM...I can answer most of them through her, I am sure.

Thank you.

And thank you all. I just started writing this chapter assuming that my MC would be picking out clothes for her grandfather. And then it dawned on me that maybe that wasn't even done for cremation. It just seemed so natural that the deceased would require clothing, no matter what the plans were.

frimble3
11-25-2007, 09:49 AM
I don't recall being asked when my father was cremated. But we had made it clear that we wanted it simple and straightforward, so he may have been cremated in his hospital gown. At the time things were pretty much a blur. I assume that if I had asked, or it had seemed important to me, they would have accommodated the request.

Stacia Kane
11-25-2007, 02:00 PM
My grandpa was cremated with his dress Stetson, I know for a fact, so presumably he also had clothes on.

Maryn
11-25-2007, 05:01 PM
We were asked about jewelry we wished to keep and whether there was a pacemaker or other medical appliance or device, but not about the clothing. Three cremations in two states.

I suspect that the dignity aspect of the mortuary business might be badly harmed if clothing were routinely removed before cremation (or burial). Besides, depending on how long after death the cremation is done, the clothing might well have stains or odors associated with the corpse which make it unsuitable for use or donation.

Maryn, who dated a mortuary employee eons ago

mkcbunny
11-26-2007, 03:24 AM
I suspect that the dignity aspect of the mortuary business might be badly harmed if clothing were routinely removed before cremation (or burial).

That was my thought, as well. Thanks.

HeronW
12-18-2007, 01:49 AM
When a person is cremated the bones remain whole afterward. Jewelry and watches are removed and returned to the family. Any large metal item is removed--fillings, missed jewelry, zippers, medical implants such as hips joints, then the bones are crushed. Smaller items are sieved out before the cremains are given to the family. Pacemakers are removed prior to cremation so that they won't explode.

mommyjo2
12-18-2007, 02:09 AM
Five years ago, in Colorado, my MIL was cremated and the home told us no clothes, but she was wrapped in a sheet like garment. They weren't allowed to burn clothes (chemicals burning and all) but assured us she would not be naked. They also removed all jewelry.

Kathie Freeman
12-18-2007, 07:41 PM
I think the issue is respect for the dead more than anything, so unless the person was a nudist, it would be clothes on, unless prohibited by law.

Prawn
12-18-2007, 09:22 PM
Let me also say that the remains are heavy afterwards. My dad was cremated, and his ashes weighed a good 20 pounds.