I'm not opposed to having the dreams. The objectives toward achieving those dreams need to be achievable goals within your control.
For you they do. That's not necessarily so for others.
Writing better, as you mentioned, is within your control and thus a good solid objective to work toward. "Getting published" is not, even if that's the hoped result of writing better.
I'm sorry, but I find it incredibly rude to tell someone that their objectives are "wrong." I don't think it's your place, or anyone else's place, to tell someone that they're "wrong" for having publication as an objective or that their objectives are no good.
And again, if we only set as objectives things entirely within our control people would achieve very little.
Getting published is a dream, not an objective.
Not for those who set their mind to it, work hard, and achieve it.
Getting published was my objective. I'm glad it was, because if I hadn't made it my objective I wouldn't have submitted anywhere. I wouldn't have kept writing after my very first rejection.
Hope that clarifies my position on dreams vs objectives.
Your position didn't need clarifying. You believe it's your place to tell others what sorts of goals are and are not correct for them, and you believe that unless it's something you can do all on your own entirely by your own steam and needing no one else at all you shouldn't consider it an objective. The post I quote now doesn't indicate your opinions on the subject are any different than they were in the first post.
(You can substitute other terms in for either and quibble about definitions but I don't think it's conceptually tough to understand the value in setting concrete achievable objectives within your control with the hope they result in making your dreams come true.)
Who is quibbling about definitions? If anything, you're the one doing so by insisting on an extremely narrow--and, to my knowledge, totally original to you--definition of the word "objective."
I didn't say there was anything at all conceptually wrong with setting concrete achievable objectives within your control with the hope they result in your dreams coming true (and I'm certainly capable of understanding the concept, thank you). What I said was that "being published" is a perfectly acceptable objective, and that I take issue with telling others that their objectives are "wrong."