Jealousy

brainstorm77 · Aug 25, 2009

The main character in one of my WIP can be really jealous within her relationship with her boyfriend.... I'm curious about others opinions on jealousy within a relationship... To be more specific I mean when it comes to them flirting or being flirted with...

Mod: Please nix the L in the title

Thanks.

Yeshanu · Aug 25, 2009

It seems that so far, the eggplant is winning. :tongue

You didn't put in an option for those of us who have no spouse/partner. Except Orlando.

Now if you changed it to Cate Blanchett, I'd have voted that way.

kayleamay · Aug 25, 2009

I had to go with eggplant. I don't get jealous because my husband never flirts and doesn't seem to pick up on it when other women flirt with him. In past relationships (with man whores) I wouldn't really get jealous as much as I would just get pissed off.

brainstorm77 · Aug 25, 2009

Yeshanu said:
It seems that so far, the eggplant is winning.

You didn't put in an option for those of us who have no spouse/partner. Except Orlando.

Now if you changed it to Cate Blanchett, I'd have voted that way.

You're right I should have included that in it

It's not exclusive for coupled peeps

YAwriter72 · Aug 25, 2009

My hubs is constantly getting flirted with, he works in a beer and wine store. He emails to tell me and I laugh out loud. He breaks it down for me, hot older woman, young cute girl, wine rep guy who grabbed his ass.

LorelieBrown · Aug 25, 2009

I picked Orlando as a way of saying sometimes.

Most of the time, I don't care, but if it's over the top, like the chick's really smokin' or if DH can't keep his tongue in his head, I can get a little annoyed.

Adam · Aug 25, 2009

Personally, no.

I'm a huge flirt, as some of you may have noticed, and would have no problems with a spouse who was equally flirty. I consider it harmless fun.

I know some people are of the belief that once you're in a relationship, you should only have eyes for your partner, but I'm not one of them.

MsGneiss · Aug 25, 2009

Adzmodeus said:
I know some people are of the belief that once you're in a relationship, you should only have eyes for your partner, but I'm not one of them.

Agree with that. Flirting is harmless as long as it doesn't go too far.

scarletpeaches · Aug 25, 2009

Completely disagree. If I was with a man who wanted to actively flirt with other women, he wouldn't be with me for long.

You're giving your sexual energy to someone outside the relationship.

LorelieBrown · Aug 25, 2009

scarletpeaches said:
You're giving your sexual energy to someone outside the relationship.

If I understand what I've been told about polyamory (and it's entirely possible I don't), some peeps feel like the more sexual energy they distribute, the more they get back.

/devil's advocate

quickWit · Aug 25, 2009

scarletpeaches said:
Completely disagree. If I was with a man who wanted to actively flirt with other women, he wouldn't be with me for long.

Would you bite his head off right then, or wait 'til you got home?

scarletpeaches · Aug 25, 2009

LorelieBrown said:
If I understand what I've been told about polyamory (and it's entirely possible I don't), some peeps feel like the more sexual energy they distribute, the more they get back.

/devil's advocate

I was under the impression we were talking about more traditional set-ups.

Personally I don't have a problem with polyamory or swinging or open relationships as long as everyone's kept in the loop, understands and agrees to it.

quickWit said:
Would you bite his head off right then, or wait 'til you got home?

Neither. I'd simply get my coat, leave him to it, and be out of his life.

LorelieBrown · Aug 25, 2009

scarletpeaches said:
I was under the impression we were talking about more traditional set-ups.

Personally I don't have a problem with polyamory or swinging or open relationships as long as everyone's kept in the loop, understands and agrees to it.

Eh, we were. I don't have enough to do at work, and the board seems a little quiet this morning.

scarletpeaches · Aug 25, 2009

Your boss knows what you're posting about!

Really. He's looking over your shoulder right now.

LorelieBrown · Aug 25, 2009

I has an office with a door. I'z speshul.

quickWit · Aug 25, 2009

In answer to the OP, I don't get jealous, although I can't recall my Mrs Wit flirting with anyone in recent memory. I don't flirt in real life. Too easy to mislead/be misled.

jennontheisland · Aug 25, 2009

Nope. I hear about it all the time. It amuses me.

rhymegirl · Aug 25, 2009

One, your title says Jealously instead of jealousy.

And two, I don't really mind if women flirt with my husband. They usually don't though.

cray · Aug 25, 2009

*why would quickwit post in this thread? i thought he was coming over to the cabaret. he said he was coming over to the cabaret this morning. now everyone is reading his post. great. like i care. pfft.*

quickWit · Aug 25, 2009

^ killing. me.

spamwarrior · Aug 25, 2009

I get jealous. Actually, if he got flirted with, I probably wouldn't mind if he didn't flirt back. If he flirted back...

James81 · Aug 25, 2009

I think it would only bother me if she did it right in front of me or while she was with me. To me, that's disrespectful.

The idea that she might be flirting with someone else? Nah, that don't bother me.

But for some reason, today, eggplant sounds really delicious.

LorelieBrown · Aug 25, 2009

rhymegirl said:
One, your title says Jealously instead of jealousy.

Pssst..... *whispers* Up there. ^

brainstorm77 said:
Mod: Please nix the L in the title Thanks.

Maryn · Aug 25, 2009

I trust Mr. Maryn so completely that I know he would, at most, flirt back at a superficial level, and probably not even that. It's pretty cool, having that level of trust. But it didn't develop immediately, of course. Whether and how a character reacts will depend entirely on the trust level of the relationship.

Maryn, wise old woman, once in a while, otherwise an idiot

ChrisKelly331 · Aug 25, 2009

I like to pretend I'm not jealous when stuff like that happens, but inside I am seething! I never say anything though, I dont want to seem like a nag.

Jealousy

Do you get jealous if your spouse/partner flirts of is flirted with?

Yes

No

Orlando makes me jealous

I want eggplant

practical experience, FTW

Elf Queen

I'm on the phone.

practical experience, FTW

someone let me off this crazy ride

Got the hang of it, here

Not dead.

Got the hang of it, here

Totally Ninja!

Got the hang of it, here

Got the hang of it, here

Totally Ninja!

the world is at my command

It's a New Year!

Superior Life form

Totally Ninja!

rewriting.

Great Scott Member

Got the hang of it, here

Baaa!

Peter Steele <3