Matthew 10:14
"If I found out she was dead, I would be upset - not for he, because she's a child-abusing, thieving, violent, hypocritical, deceitful whore. No, I'd cry for the relationship we never had."
Whether that's any help to you or not I don't know, but at least it's honest.
Let it out peaches. Remember that the best revenge is to be happy. You'll know it's truly over when you get bored of hearing yourself say it, (which is about 2-10 years longer than it will take your spouse to get tired of hearing it. Our family reunions formalized a schism into the disciples and the heretics. Being the youngest surviving sibling, I've attended both until I was forced to choose a side. Lucky me, the heretics were happy to see me.
The disciple dinner is/was presided over by the old patriarch, loudly slurping, burping, smacking his lips alternating with clearing his throat while making disparaping comments about the food and all those involved in the production of said meal while poorly hiding his glee about his flatulence. Somehow he always got the craving for sauerkraut a few hours before the reunion. In his younger years there would be shouting, blood spatter on the wall along with a dent in the wall matching the cranial configuration of one of the children. Another person would have a knife to their own wrist saying "You won't be able to hide this!"
The heretics have more fun after the first couple of drinks. The food's always great. Most of us are foodies. There's music, maybe even some dancing for those not still so repressed that they can't handle it. After the next couple of drinks starts the group therapy session, where the spouses leave the siblings in the kitchen with a few bottles of whatever and they muster off to another room to do those things that sane people do to amuse themselves while their loved one is "at a session". As the years go by, the sessions get shorter. Some of the siblings get bored and go play with the sane people.
Then one day you get the call, "How are you George?"
"Horrible. I'm squirting from both ends with the flu, why? what's up?"
"Um, Dad's in the hospital."
"No shit, on the anniversary of mom's birthday. Did he grow a conscience?"
He says he wants to get reunited with her in Heaven. He is refusing treatment and wants to die."
"Well, unless Heaven is very different from what we were taught, he'll be taking the other escalator. I assume a doctor has seen him?
Yeah they said something about free air?
"He's already had his colon out for Ogilvie's so it isn't Colon Cancer or Diverticulitis. Given the timing, on a anniversary of a spouse's birthday or death, it's probably stress ulcers and with free air, that means it's already perfed. He'll be dead in 2 to 5 days without treatment.
He looks like he's in pain
Yeah, that's a very painful condition. You should call Hospice
They gave him a PCA, but he wont press the button to get the morphine.
Call Hospice they deal with dying patients and estranged families all the time.
Aren't you coming up?
What for?
To say goodbye
I said my goodbyes ten years ago. I could deal with him attacking me. I could even deal with him attacking my wife cause she'll just dish it back. But when he attacked my kids, orchestrating a kidnapping, making false accusations to police, that was it. I told him he could call back if and when he could apologise. He can't even fake one.
Don't think about him. Think about what you need. There will be no other chance.
Are Hitler Youth and Manson Girl there?
Yeah
Then no. I shook his dust from my sandals. I tried turning him to good with kindness. He went to the bank and charmed them into adding his name to my school loans and then filed a change of address so I would no longer get the notices. Then he was going to get the whistle blowers fee for turning in someone defaulting on a government loan. I even chucked that up to maybe senility, knowing that that was not the real problem. He wasn't senile during the beatings or the rapings.
You can't trust what she said about that. It's her word against his and she was seeing a psychiatrist.
I always did what he asked but he tried to take my infant children, that's when my eyes were finally opened. I saw all the corruption and evil. He called Childrens Protective Services from 3 states away making up all sorts of crap about our house that he's never even seen. My kids are my priority, not him. I'm not going to attempt an 8 hour drive that realistically I could not do safely with my current health problems anyway only to be met by those other two who have promissed to kill me, and they are just pycho enough to think that they are doing GodDad's Will. No, Put in simplest terms, the risk outweighs the possible benefit.
They said that they won't really try to ambush you in the parking lot.
So they've thought enough about it to have a plan. No Thank you. There is nothing that he can tell me that makes it worth risking my kids getting orphaned.
Should I give him a message for you?
Sure, that my life has improved and I don't hold a grudge.
You sound kind of angry. That sounds like a grudge.
When the gazelle runs from the lion, it is not from a grudge. It is merely self preservation. Logic tells me, Stay home and play with your children, laugh, be happy.